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This one’s for the caregivers.
The husbands, wives, brothers, sisters, sons, daughters, fathers, mothers, friends, lovers, and others.
The late-night calls, tears and fear on the other end. The holding of hands, the stroking of the forearm, the kiss on the forehead. Leaving a piece of yourself even when you go.
Returning to basic survival—safety, food, warmth, shelter—and realizing how much it takes to keep one person going, let alone two.
The feeling that if you’re not strong, you will fail them. The dread that one day, you will drop the ball. Living with the terror of losing someone you love, and not being able to do a damn thing about it but try to make them more comfortable.
The discomfort of feeling someone else’s pain but not being able to take it away from them.
Nothing can happen on your watch. And it’s always your watch. And it’s going to happen.
I recently read that a key to character, in any situation, is asking oneself, not, “What do I want from this?” but rather “What’s my responsibility in this?”
And then, suddenly, my father’s old age took a turn, and I was called upon to take more responsibility than I had before. Fortunately for us, it is not cancer. It is just a new stage in the long march toward the end of a long, full life. A far more fragile, fraught, and scary stage, for which there is no playbook. It’s all improv.
Aging to 92 and beyond is not for the faint of heart, but at least you get to reach 92. Cancer takes people of all ages. And makes caregivers of many of us.
This experience, of caring for my father, is giving me newfound respect for the caregivers of cancer. I’m learning that we’re meant to care for each other in this way. Let’s all renew our sense of responsibility to take care of each other. To do what we can.
And let’s end cancer. So more of us get to face the challenge of growing old. Together.
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